June 18, 2007
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The Talk
I’m a little behind on my Xanga reading because I was doing a lot of homework this weekend. I did take some time for fun and spent Saturday at the Three Rivers Arts Festival in Pittsburgh. Lots of fun! Saw some great painting, sculptures, etc, a glass blowing exhibition and heard some great music. Also drank fresh squeezed lemonade and enjoyed other culinary treats such as Chicken-on-a-Stick and corndogs. The heartburn was wretched but the food was sooo tasty.
Well, Garth and I, after nearly five years of marriage, had The Talk. You know the one, should we or should we not try to have a baby. I’m not sure how I feel. I know I’m 34 and not getting any younger, but I feel like there is so much I want to do yet. I think if you have a baby, it should be the number one priority in your life. I’m not sure I’m ready for that yet, but if I’m not now, will I ever be? This is probably a bit personal for a blog I guess, but I wrote a poem about what I thought it would be like in those moments when you are the only one who knows that you are pregnant.
Secret Mother
Lying atop a king-sized bed absorbing the
sounds of starlings and crickets in these
pitch dark first moments of morning,
I feel your hidden breath synchronize with mine.A sleeping calico lies curled on my womb
as if she knows to warm you in the cool dawn.
Your father sleeps beside us and dreams of
climbing apple trees and riding railroad cars.I rise and walk to the window, open the glass
to the scented air of marigolds and chives.
The sky is lucid and cloudless, and I think I see
your curled tendrils and golden cheeks in the stars.
Comments (13)
Beautiful poetry. I remember the priest telling us before we married, “don’t wait til you are ready for children, you never will be until they are born.” The marriage ended quickly but the kid is the light of my life.
You might want to keep talking and be sure you’re both comfortable–in the long run, days and weeks will be of little consequence to the major decision. Very beautiful poem.
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Thank you Jan, I am thankful to have had her for as long as she could stay. Guess I should have mentioned that she died from a cancerous tumor. Good luck with your decision, my hubby and I decided long ago not to have children, but our lives are so full with our other babies it wasn’t that difficult for us.
You are NEVER ready for a child. Take it from a woman who has man.
I echo the sentiments of the lady above….When we found out we were pregnant, there was a frozen moment when I thought Oh. my. god. and there after we let life take it’s course.
Tomesara.x
Thank you for stopping by my site! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
RYC: Growth is something I tend to blog about often, and try to include as many perspectives on it as possible. It’s something we must all face.
As for having a baby, only you can make that choice.
It’s excellent you realize that a child comes first in life. Unless you’re currently involved in something that will take a long time though, there won’t be a better time. Otherwise, you’ll forever be saying “I still have dreams I wish to fulfill” and putting off those dreams because reality keeps setting in.
Anyway, that’s my two sense. Very nice poem and nice site!
Great Poem. You’re right about motherhood being a full-time job, but it’s worth it.
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Nice write enjoyed so much. Judi
How lucky you got to an arts festival! Love the poem. As far as weighing the possibilities for a baby, think of how old you’ll be when the child is 18, that makes you think. I had my last child at age 40-now she’s 15-YIKES, help me!! Love to you.
ahhh…. very stirring. It’s a big decision, I know that we did it much younger, but we had waited 5 years after getting married. I think you’re right. A baby has to take top priority when you have one, so it’s a big decision. Good luck coming to the answer that is right for you.
Wonderful sentiment in the poetry.